tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post8210160573358430413..comments2024-03-18T19:36:44.170-04:00Comments on the underwear drawer: physician heal thyself *Michelle Auhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04938937923678734252noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-69582232690409460032013-11-19T19:48:12.126-05:002013-11-19T19:48:12.126-05:00I like the ѵaluablе іnfoгmаtion уou prονіde in you...I like the ѵaluablе іnfoгmаtion уou prονіde in youг articles. I'll bookmark your blog and check again here frequently.Human Growth Hormone Houstonhttp://www.antiagingcostarica.com/hgh-texas-dallas-human-growth-hormonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-8164514127813085372012-11-23T05:23:10.011-05:002012-11-23T05:23:10.011-05:00i saw your blooding picture. i am very shocked.i saw your blooding picture. i am very shocked.best women underwearhttp://cutewomenunderwear.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-62962989036058625822012-09-29T20:03:13.239-04:002012-09-29T20:03:13.239-04:00How about Harry Potter? ET was scary...and I think...How about Harry Potter? ET was scary...and I think Lord of the Rings was a bit creepy, especially Golium (sp?). Some of the material is a bit dark and it's a bit of a complicated story line, so you should just judge what you feel comfortable/suitable for your child. (But what do I know? I only saw 1 of the three LOR movies and don't have a child...) <br /><br />Maybe some adventure books? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-69094263102802740012012-09-26T21:49:01.944-04:002012-09-26T21:49:01.944-04:00Michelle,
If your heart is calling you home, cut b...Michelle,<br />If your heart is calling you home, cut back your hours ASAP and be there with your perfectly beautiful bunchkins. Then don't look back, because you don't owe it to humanity to "fix" the whole mothers in medicine issue by being the perfect doctor with three kids. Remember that no child ever grows up wishing mommy spent more time at work.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-48305675923761851272012-09-20T10:37:51.778-04:002012-09-20T10:37:51.778-04:00I think I still have ET nightmares. And I'm a ...I think I still have ET nightmares. And I'm a pediatrician who works part-time- and loves it. I have three kids, like you- a 5 yo boy, a 3 yo boy and a new little girl. However, much as I tell myself my part days are for spendin gtime with them- I really end up doing errands and dragging them to the grocery store :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-70419736351671282832012-09-20T01:28:02.923-04:002012-09-20T01:28:02.923-04:00As a pediatrician and mother of three (and husband...As a pediatrician and mother of three (and husband is a pathologist), I have to agree with many of those above recommending cutting down your hours. I just finished 5 years of 0.7 FTE (which, with all the take-home charting involved meant at least 50 hours/week) while my husband was in residency and fellowship. Now that he's working a real job (mostly better hours than training but not always) and we no longer have my mom as our nanny, I'm cutting down to more like 0.45. The 2-year-old will definitely be my last, and I just don't want to have to miss all that like I think I did with my middle girl. She's a really clingy kid, not really confident, and I have to think that my not being there much when she was 1-4 had a lot to do with that.<br /><br />So on another topic, the clingy now-almost-7-year-old and her 9-year-old sister are both not at all into scary things, but they loved watching Lord of the Rings last year. My husband showed it to them in 15-30 minute segments every few days on his lap, sort of as bedtime story, over a couple of months at times when I needed time to shower or get the littlest guy down to sleep. They were really caught up in the story, and they both identify it as their favorite movie. And the eldest is also an aspiring writer! (We're also just getting into having to think about pushing to skip a school grade with her, as she's not handling the transition from a Montessori elementary school in the city where her dad just did training to the public school (and only real option) in our current small town. . . So needless to say I've really enjoyed reading your blog for all these issues over the last year or so! <br /><br />Whew. Sorry that was so long. This post was just particularly close to my heart.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06014475699140493096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-48708923162241329382012-09-18T18:21:02.905-04:002012-09-18T18:21:02.905-04:00Let us all take a moment to grieve the end of a po...Let us all take a moment to grieve the end of a possible hand modeling career (guess you're stuck being a physician now!)...Now, moving on, I am seriously impressed that this is quite possibly the first time that you've ever repeated a blog title. If I chronicled my medicine experience, approximately 9 out of 10 posts probably would have been labeled something like "bitches be crazy." Your extensive use of the american vernacular, as it relates to blog titles, should be applauded. Any nay-sayers should be prosecuted. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-70531495030546237182012-09-18T14:13:39.659-04:002012-09-18T14:13:39.659-04:00I don't have any advice for you. I just wante...I don't have any advice for you. I just wanted to tell you I've been thinking about you and wondering how you were faring. I know the kids are fine - better than fine, judging by Cal's writing - and I hope you find your balance and groove in managing a family/career/everything. You rock, and you're a good role model for me as I try to balance my own family and career. :) I'm glad you write. Please keep doing it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-48775709034106588642012-09-18T08:30:39.256-04:002012-09-18T08:30:39.256-04:00ET was terrifying!! ET was terrifying!! Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01957870218750281678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-62831132011252014472012-09-18T07:21:36.891-04:002012-09-18T07:21:36.891-04:00Seven? Parents today really coddle their children...Seven? Parents today really coddle their children way more than my drinking/smoking parents of yesteryear. By seven I had seen a few of the Friday the 13th movies, knew all about Freddy Kruger and think I even saw Texas chainsaw (that i still don't understand it's appeal). A little Lord of the Rings is no worse that the star wars flicksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-10391252312467993202012-09-17T13:25:59.300-04:002012-09-17T13:25:59.300-04:00Hi there,
Since we're all dropping in a coupl...Hi there,<br /><br />Since we're all dropping in a couple pennies worth of "advice" today, thought I might add mine to the mix. I'm a Hospitalist, 4 years out of training, pregnant with my third. My first was born during residency, and ...well... you do what you have to do. My second was born during my second year of full-time practice, while my husband was a full-time student. Again, we just pushed through. I am now settled comfortably into a part-time academic job, working mostly nights, with my days spent shuttling kids around to Kindergarten and preschool, enjoying lunch with my husband, exercising, and having a life. I feel like I'm living the dream right now, keeping up my skills (and making some money) while spending tons of time with my family and (this is key:) myself. I will take a few months off for the third, then plan to go right back to part-time. Will probably return to full-time in a few years, thankfully without much of a hole in my CV.<br /><br />It seems like Anesthesia and Hospitalist work have similar shift-based schedules. You don't need to be full-time to maintain your skills and... let's face it... you have NOTHING to prove at this point. You are a skilled (if somewhat lacerated) Anesthesiologist, a published author, a nationally-known blogger, a public speaker, a mother of three, now a SEAMSTRESS for gosh-sakes. It's okay to pull back for awhile. You will have a long career: five years of non-full-time work while you and your kids are young is just a blip in time. A lovely well-earned blip.<br /><br />I hope you find the balance that makes you happy. I feel so privileged to have found it for myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-37761186938817886842012-09-17T12:48:39.113-04:002012-09-17T12:48:39.113-04:00So - what's up with Mack?So - what's up with Mack?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-46122898498293453842012-09-17T09:20:50.941-04:002012-09-17T09:20:50.941-04:00My kids (7 and 9 yo) love LOTR. It is a new Lego t...My kids (7 and 9 yo) love LOTR. It is a new Lego theme. And before I let them watch the movies, I read the whole series to them (still reading, finishing book 2 now). It is written in good english and kids know to wait for the movies, which makes it a neat anticipation. I am actually thinking of purchasing LOTR cartoon, less scary. Still they were not afraid of the movie either. I somehow felt that LOTR series have a bit more of a purpose than modern day horror sequels for kids. There is courage, comaradeship, true friendships, humor and a slew of neat charecters (including live trees). If you are not kin on the movie, you can start with cartoon (it has bright colors unlike dark in the movie). As far as Star Wars, I am thinking to let them watch only the first movie which I like very much myself. The remainder of SW productions just seemed to turn into "clone wars". Lastly, your 7 yo writes like my 9 yo, and spells better too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-35405599249219732892012-09-17T08:43:15.618-04:002012-09-17T08:43:15.618-04:00I tnink the majority of your readers are of some s...I tnink the majority of your readers are of some sort of medicl background or with children. So a little splash of blood should not really gross anyone out. <br /><br />I thought I remember reading you had a nanny. If not, you need at least one and maybe one and a part-time (on call) one. Seriously with three children and two full-time physicians that include call - you need it more than the rest of us!!!<br /><br />Glad the hand healed beautifully!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-37604276696028955782012-09-17T02:47:06.819-04:002012-09-17T02:47:06.819-04:00I too have 3 children. I did the SAHM thing for 6...I too have 3 children. I did the SAHM thing for 6 months and found it too hard of a gig. It was so draining. So I did the next best thing, working as a part-time pediatrician. I love it! Going to work allows me to miss them so that when I come home, it is a lovefest--lots of hugging/kissing/rolling on the floor and enjoying my kids. For me, part-time work allows me the best of both worlds. Life would be perfect if my husband (also a doc) agrees to do part-time too. Bloggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05420797322996554375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-6614605808332283082012-09-16T23:05:07.240-04:002012-09-16T23:05:07.240-04:00Eh, do whatever you want to with your career/homel...Eh, do whatever you want to with your career/homelife, don't let a bunch of Internet strangers make you feel bad about wanting a career and actually liking work. There is value in your children seeing that women don't throw away their careers and stop working because they have children. <br />That being said, I am a medical sub-specialist (cards) who works part-time and it is effing amazing to work parttime! Don't forget it's an option too!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-35668150882558658852012-09-16T21:12:16.079-04:002012-09-16T21:12:16.079-04:00You are awesome, and jeez, do whatever is best for...You are awesome, and jeez, do whatever is best for your family. <br />As for your hand and the pics, well...the more gruesome the better for me. <br />It takes an awful lot to turn my stomach. :O<br /><br />Seriously, you are truly an inspiration to me and I'm certain to many. Rock on.<br />Your kids are amazing. Keep smiling. Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10998700965688959938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-25209970732420645532012-09-16T21:11:14.661-04:002012-09-16T21:11:14.661-04:00Was a SAHM when my two boys were infants all the w...Was a SAHM when my two boys were infants all the way through till my older son started elementary school. Got lots of flak for "wasting" my medical degree but have not regretted a precious moment of those first several years of bonding & establishing a close relationship with my sons.<br /><br />To each his own, I say...just follow your heart...aliendochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16943953235357596536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-40744987576806308022012-09-16T19:35:54.871-04:002012-09-16T19:35:54.871-04:00I'd hesitate with LOTR's scary level-there...I'd hesitate with LOTR's scary level-there's nothing inappropriate, but the graphics are amazing. Also, the attention span required is a lot. I introduced my cousin when he was 10 and he loved it then-so perhaps 2 more years?<br /><br />dolce vitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01724238633892692237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-27243058518863491292012-09-16T19:32:14.400-04:002012-09-16T19:32:14.400-04:00Wow, that is amazing prosody for a 7 year old. Wha...Wow, that is amazing prosody for a 7 year old. What kinds of books does he read? ::gets pen to copy down reading list::Jennynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-10928008557722965102012-09-16T18:55:06.750-04:002012-09-16T18:55:06.750-04:00Hey,
So I discovered your blog this weekend, and ...Hey, <br />So I discovered your blog this weekend, and kept flipping and scrolling, and reading away since I'm sick. What better way than to spend a weekend in bed than to start following a new blog, right? Not like I should be studying any Organic Chem (pre-med bio major blablaahblah)..........ok I should. But this is much more interesting. <br /><br /><br />ANYWAY, <br />I found myself on your first post for this blog. It was about you and your husband renting Lord of the Rings for the first time. I just thought that was kinda cool, because here y'all are 9 years later debating on whether or not to let your son watch it! Kinda cool if you ask me!<br />cmariekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01144358202136342336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-4061901320106762722012-09-16T18:06:24.247-04:002012-09-16T18:06:24.247-04:00Hi Michelle, Wow, your hand just about turned my s...Hi Michelle, Wow, your hand just about turned my stomach. Thank goodness it seems to be on the mend now. <br /><br />I love Cal's story and I think we all know that there is something special within that child. I have a 5 year old grandson who is a lot like Helen's son. All he talks about and draws pictures of is killing and fighting and robberies and I am all over my son and dil for it all the time...It is worrisome to me but they tell me most kids play in this manner. Wow, I didn't know that..I kind of have visions like Helen does of one day seeing it spread out all over CNN or something. I hope this is a phase that quickly passes. I miss my sweet baby of even one year ago.<br /><br />My son and dil have always worked like you and Joe do. Thankfully, we all live close so I have always been there to watch the kids. Our last one, the one who is now 5, did go to pre school the last 2 years. All this talk of killing and fighting makes me wonder just what they taught him, but again, I hope it passes. <br /><br />I sense something in you, by your words, that wasn't there when Cal and Mack were little. Most likely because of trying to get through residency and then Joe trying to get through the fellowship when Mack was born. You really couldn't have done things much different back then but now I get the feeling you want to stay at home with the kids. I think you should do just exactly whatever makes you feel the best. No one could fault you for wanting to be at home at least for a few years. Even if you went back to work when Nina began Kindergarten if you wanted, I'm sure with your qualifications a job would always be within your reach. I can't imagine having 3 kids all 7 and younger and working full time. My son and dil spread theirs way out and still at times it was quite hard on them. Their oldest is now 22 and the youngest is 5. In between is a 15 year old. 17 years between oldest and youngest is a big spread...You are an awesome woman and mom and I know you will decide what is best for your family whether that means you keep working or not.<br /><br />Always a pleasure to read what you write. :):)<br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-65198250692260683012012-09-16T17:47:20.867-04:002012-09-16T17:47:20.867-04:00As a mother and child of two workaholics lets me s...As a mother and child of two workaholics lets me say if your heart is pulling you to be home with your kids and you can swing it financially DO IT! Kids grow so quickly especially when they are babies. All the BS you hear that we all turn out "ok" is BS. My mom stayed home with me for the first nine months and then returned to work full steam ahead. (She was an over zealous teacher taking on all leadership positions while also pursuing a masters of education FULL TIME and did not stop when my brother was born.) I turned out alright (but had SERIOUS BUMPS IN THE ROAD THAT WERE DIRECTLY CAUSED BY BEING CARED FOR BY PEOPLE NOT MY PARENTS) but my brother did not. My parents are married and my father worked the graveyard shift for seven years until my mom made him work a more civilized work schedule. He found his stride with his masters and PhD full time 4.0 all the meanwhile me and my brother were falling apart. (Money was never an issue, just attentive parents and parents who supervise us. We were raised by nannies.) PEople can say what they want but as a mother and child of two working parents who were NOT doctors but worked 80 hours a week each with their combined schedules/commitments.... let me say both of my parents have regrets and dont' have good relationships with either of their kids. My husband is a doctor (Surgeon in training) and we made the conscious choice that I will stay home while he is in training. (I have a college degree and professional work experience). I do lose my mind some times and wish I wasn't stuck in such a provincial city for residency but not a day goes by my daughter doesn't express explicitly: mommy i'm so glad you're home with me. Her words at age 3, not mine. When I want to pull my hair out and wonder why I wasted money/time on the LSAT (I was going to law school when I got pregnant and my husband got sick) I remind myself this is all so fleeting. Who cares what any one thinks of me. Who cares if I'm a SAHM with "help" and whine when my husband works the 36 hour shift and I'm 38 weeks pregnant with the second one and my feet are swollen and I want to cry about it. who cares?!?! I am smart, strong and a wonderful person. No job, salary or degree can make up for these tender moments with my daughter and soon-to-be daughter. Good luck with whatever you decide. You owe no one anything, other than yourself. The best thing about kids (and pets) is that they remind us the importance of living IN THE MOMENT, not living for the next decade. I love your blog by the way. I hope your hand feels better and be grateful GRandma could step in. I'm due in a couple of weeks...my MIL is such an unhelpful painful person we can't have her visit and my mother is so NOT motherly (she can't be up all night with a baby, she hates my dog and if it's not her allergies bothering her she's got ot keep up with her pain meds and sinus meds and drama at work blah blah blah) she's been invited for a "visit" when we're settled-did i mention she lives 6 states away and is all too content to send money rather than share in these "domestic" moments that she will NEVER be able to re-create? Ugh don't get me started. You are blessed and I hope you do find a balance. I love your sewing projects too! Your daughter is ADORABLE.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-80562823786446559962012-09-16T13:53:32.363-04:002012-09-16T13:53:32.363-04:00Ha! I know, that would have been ironic! :)Ha! I know, that would have been ironic! :)Michelle Auhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04938937923678734252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5779260.post-44923345994983954392012-09-16T11:17:06.905-04:002012-09-16T11:17:06.905-04:00How lucky for your family that grandma came for an...How lucky for your family that grandma came for an extended visit. What a great opportunity for her and the children to bond more. My own mom-in-law never (may I repeat, never) helped me with my 2 daughters and she lives only 30 minutes away. Now that she's 90 and in subacute rehab, she doesn't have to wonder why I'm not visiting her. Sorry to vent, but I had to let it out. Love your blog, your book, your sewing, all of it. I feel like flying down to Atlanta to help too.Broccoli Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02912320142244264136noreply@blogger.com