Friday, September 30, 2011

quality

Yesterday I had to take Cal for a checkup at the video-game-magical-treasure-chest-flat-screen-TV-playing-wall-to-wall-cartoons emporium, also known as the pediatric dentist's office.  Can I say, first of all, how awesome I think the culture of pediatric dentistry is?  Getting your kids--or at least my kids--into that chair is kind of a hard sell, but they sure hit that right combination of bribery and computer-animated video hypnosis to make it a much more positive experience.

Anyway, the only appointment I could get was at 10:00am, which means that Cal missed the morning at school, and when I saw what time it would be by the time I dropped him back off (after lunch, halfway through recess, with only two hours left before dismissal) I decided to just get his assignments from his teacher and keep him the rest of the day for some quality time, just him and me.  It's something we don't get to do very often.  We need to do it more.




The fact of it is, although I talk about Cal much more on this blog (first pass effect, I guess), Mack actually much more attention from me when I'm home.  The thing it is that Mack is little, and just in terms of the activities of daily living, he needs a lot more minute-to-minute maintenance, whereas Cal I can just tell to go do his homework or go read a book or please wash your hands and get ready for dinner.  He's pretty well-behaved too, which means that for the most part, he doesn't need me on top of him for every single last detail.  Which is good of course, but when you work a lot and have two kids, I think it sometimes means he gets less actual time with me outside of the purely purpose driven tasks and me prodding him to hit all the points he needs to hit before bedtime each night.

Yesterday, we went to the dentist.  Then I took him out for lunch at Five Guys Burgers and we stopped by Staples to pick up one of those plastic report covers for a school project due next week before finally heading home.  The dentist, burgers, and a plastic report cover.  But just him and me.  Cal told me later that it was one of the best days ever.

I told him we'd do it again soon.

17 comments:

  1. Wow I totally get what you mean. I find myself wanting to have special nights with my oldest son. But my younger son doesn't seem to need it. It's nice to spend time with them when they are older and you can have actual conversations with them.

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  2. Anonymous2:28 PM

    how cute. i vividly remember days with my mom, just the two of us, and they were definitely some of the best days ever!

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  3. Thanks for posting this. I'm a psychotherapist, and when I work with families, I try to get people to think about spending "special time" with each pair in the family. (Each parenting figure + each kid person, regardless of legal/official terms.) People sometimes don't want to, because of difficulty/expense, but *this* is what I'm talking about!

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  4. Anonymous5:27 PM

    hope you had a fun day!

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  5. Aww so cute. I love when the simple things make us so happy.

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  6. I love this. It's such a great reminder that our kids don't really care about what we're doing, they are just happy with time with us!

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  7. Cheryl9:19 PM

    My college-senior daughter came home from school yesterday (just a bus ride away) and I took her to the dentist too!! Then we went to the motor vehicle place to get her new license, got coffee and went shopping at Loehmann's. Like Mack, it was one of my best days too.

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  8. Anonymous12:46 AM

    like!

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  9. Anonymous7:36 AM

    Michelle, Both you and Joe are such good parents judging from the activities you planned as a family. Feel sorry for those kids from broken homes.

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  10. video-game-magical-treasure-chest-flat-screen-TV-playing-wall-to-wall-cartoons emporium

    I wish my dentist office was like that! Instead I am white-knuckling it while musak is blaring some old Barry Manilow song!

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  11. I know, I wish the adult dentist was like that too!

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  12. I was catching up on your blog last night instead of going to sleep, and then got TOTALLY distracted searching for pens. And I think Cal might need this: http://www.jetpens.com/Pilot-FriXion-Color-Pencil-Like-Erasable-Gel-Ink-Pen-0.7-mm-24-Color-Set/pd/3688

    I want it VERY BADLY. But graduate school "salary" = a bad idea for me to buy these. How awesome is that collection?!

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  13. I know, I was looking at it too!! Oh Jetpens, you complete me.

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  14. Anonymous3:07 PM

    "The best day ever" = that's sweet. Time with his momma can't be beat, even if it involves going to the dentist and buying school supplies

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  16. That is really ingenious. That would have got me to sit still. I wonder if the orthodontist in Kitchener will try something like this.

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